Current Mood: Sad

I have been neglecting my little site here. I should be ashamed. However, I have good reason. My name is Abby and I am a Facebook Addict. I spend a lot of my online time on facebook and or roleplaying. But even my roleplaying muse has taken a little vacation. I tried to get back into the swing of things by participating in Nanowrimo, but after the first day, I had given up on that too. Perhaps I am just getting to the age where I don’t enjoy this as much as I had in the past. Perhaps I am just too busy in my real life than I realize. No matter what the reasons are behind my change in interests, its there, and I can’t really give a good reason other than I think I just don’t enjoy it as much as I once had. That and I live a very boring life at the moment. Nothing is happening really. I am jobless, again, which sucks, and while I could rant and rave about the economy and how unfair it is that I can’t get a job because of a lack of experience but yet can’t get experience if I don’t get a job, I won’t bore you with those details.

My husband and I are trying to buy a house, so we can get out of this apartment we are in, but even that might go sour even after the bank had said everything was okay and good to go. I was getting so excited about the possibility of FINALLY going somewhere, having a place of my own again, and to be told that there is a problem, really pisses me off. Anyway, I am crossing my fingers and hoping that the financing doesn’t fall through.

If you read this and are a facebooker, feel free to find me. Until next time.

That IS ze question!

As a follow up to yesterday’s post I have gotten a call (rather late mind you to which I snubbed and decided that I did not want to talk to the witch) from the other coach who informed me that she was unable to change her hours for today and will not be attending the game. Which, is a big WHOO HOOO because I can NOT and WILL NOT work long side her if she is going to let her daughter do wetf she wants when she wants to do it. As such, she told me Tuesday night after all this blew up that if she had to work that her daughter would not be at the game. Personally, i think that stinks because when her daughter isn’t pitching a blooming bloody fit and acting like a spoiled little bint, she CAN actually play rather well, and as we are two wins and a tie in the records, she is not someone who we can really afford to NOT have play because she has a freaking bad attitude. But to each their own I guess. We will just have to prove that we can do it, without potentially two of our best girls. Also, the reason for her call was to try to get me the schedule she had created because lets not forget, apparently I am putting girls in positions they don’t like and therefore she wants to do the schedules. So that’s fine, I just believe that I didn’t do anything wrong, and if the girls have to sometimes play a position they don’t like, its part of the game and with the amount of girls we have, something like that is going to happen. It’s not intentional. Also, last week, when it came to the boards attention about the coach being absent from the games, I was told that I needed to retrieve the bag as a teenager should not have that responsibility. I am also quite irritated with the fact that she is asking another players FATHER to assist, when she does have me. This woman is completely going about coaching all the wrong way and SOMEONE needs to see it, so they can take care of the problem before it goes any further. Fighting on field with the coaches daughter is not something that should have been done, no matter what.

So having said that, that brings me to the point of this post. Should I call the coach back and confront her? Or should I just say ok….

Well I just got a call from her… and NOW she will be there… ugh well anyway, I will keep you all updated on what goes down. Yay for her being there when Peggy will be there.. This ought to be good.

Ok so… I am a soccer coach. This is my second season. Having never played the game myself, EVER, I have been quite a bit leery with myself and my abilities to lead girls in a game I have never played myself. Now.. You are probably wondering, why if you have never played are you coaching? Well because, if the league my girls play on, don’t have enough coaches for all the girls who signed up, then girls can’t play. Which to me doesn’t seem fair. So it is up to people, like me, to step up in order to make sure that our kids play a game they enjoy playing.

Having said that, I did not stop to think or ask other coaches (or moms of my daughters friends) to coach with me. Which, in hindsight, I really regret doing. Anyway, in early July, we had our soccer draft day, and I was placed with a woman who has never coached before. (Did I mention that this was my second season AND that I had changed from 9/10 year olds to teens?) Probably wasn’t a good idea for me to coach my eldest daughters age group.

I forget that the teenage years are torture, on both the teen and the parent. And that became apparent as ever last night when one of the girls referred to me as effing B**** under her breath simply because she had to sit out the first quarter. It wasn’t intentional, it was just how it ended up being.

See, this girl, in the two games last week, expressed how much she liked playing goal in alternating quarters, which was something that I tried to take into consideration when I made the schedule for last nights game. However, when I got to the field, we had to reorder because of two girls who were on the schedule weren’t there. Its not a big deal, we have 15 girls, and only play 10. (did i also mention that this spoiled snot nose brat is the other coaches daughter?) So when she says to me that because she sat out that she was NOT playing goalie, (which screwed up the rest of the quarters set up) its not ok. I happened to call the program director because I almost took my daughter, and was going to quit. right then and there, because no child.. and yes, her behavior warrants being called a child, has the right to talk to me, or anyone else for that matter, the way she did last night. Getting into an altercation with a stuck up spoiled brat is not MY idea of fun.

Had I been thinking like I had about this since last night, I would have told her to suck it up, behave like a teen instead of spoiled little whiney brat and play the game its meant to be played. But I didn’t think to say that. I also regret not doing it.

It also came to my attention (and I’m pretty sure that the drama is being stirred by the spoiled brat herself) that girls seemed to be unhappy with where they are placed on the schedule. Now, I have tried to be accommodating, I have tried to take into consideration the positions the girls like to play when creating the schedule. However, not every one can play, and not every one can play the position they WANT to play all the time. Does that warrant the behavior of this child? It’s not easy to please everyone, and I have not yet met anyone that can accomplish such a feat, but if there is someone out there that can please everyone at any given moment, can you please contact me? If last night is any indication of where this season is headed, it will make for one long drawn out and unhappy season.

Oh and did i mention it is because of the aforementioned drama that I am no longer going to make the schedules? You can bet that the other coach is going to favor her daughter because that is what the girl expects. Sad, really.

Since graduating college in 2004, I have had quite the difficulty with finding suitable employment. Of course, have two pregnancies during the years that followed really didn’t help my cause. You see, I am a paralegal. Well…. rather, trying to be one. When I found out I was pregnant with my last child I was really searching for work, I mean… really SEARCHING. I looked everywhere and when I finally interviewed with a firm, it was pretty local to my home town. I never told the potential employer during the interview process about the impending pregnancy. I chose to withhold that information because I have seen how employers have discriminated against women who were expecting, and I did not want that to happen to me. So, I withheld info. Granted, I probably shouldn’t have, but figured, if they offer me job then I will need to tell them, and if not, they didn’t use the info to not offer me the job. Well as it turned out, they did offer me the job. I was so excited, so happy that I was finally able to get into what I thought was a decent firm and not have to drive into the city. It worked all around. Until the bomb. When I told them I’d be happy to take the job….but…. It sealed my fate. Needless to say, I didn’t wind up working there. Now, I could have sued them for discrimination because they offered me a job, and reneged upon my telling them I was expecting. It was the right thing to do mind you. BUT considering the potential employer never gave me a written offer, it more than likely would have turned into a “he said, she said” game, something that I didn’t want to involve myself in. Not to mention, the attorney fees to handle such a claim.

So after that, I did receive an offer. It was for a small firm in the city, and it was something that under normal circumstances not something I would have taken. You see, when you are working, you become slightly more picky as to what you can take. When you’re not, well you take what is given to you. So having not been working, and being offered the job, I was more than happy to take it. That was two years ago. In June, my supervising attorney passed away, and as such, my job went with him. Now that I am looking for work again, and in these tough times, I am finding it more difficult to find something.

I interviewed with a wonderful place, in the city, and went in, and had a great interview. It lasted an hour, and the partner was quite impressed with my credentials. I left there thinking ok, not bad. You know when you get a feeling that something actually went right, you believe its a good thing. In this case, it was a good thing, because two days later, I received a call back. I was estactic. It was for a second interview, this time with the attorney I would be working for.

That interview last 20 minutes. I was nervous. How can I be the one they would choose if my interview only lasted 20 minutes? My husband had thought it was more of a meet and greet, as the professional side of things was done during the first interview. I had thought this would be a great opportunity, that my connections in the business and my recommendations would be just enough to put me over the top. I had even sent thank you letters to each individual I had interviewed with, just to tell them that I had appreciated their time, and believe that I would fit in rather nicely there.

I got the No Thank you letter over the weekend. Which makes me wonder, was it my lack of experience that did me in? Or was there something I said or did during the interview which made them look elsewhere, despite them being “really impressed with what you have to offer a potential employer”?

I don’t expect an answer, I will never know really, but I thought I would pose this question out to the oblivion. What could I have done differently?

Well after spending a couple of days, and neglecting some of my other loves on the world wide web, I have somewhat got my site back up and running.  Today, I added a Fairy pods page, for when my order from Smile recipe comes in, I have added my membership site.  That is the biggest thing I need to do yet, retrieve all my badges.  I also have added some new things, and I am trying to piece together my links page.  I believe I had quite a few links on that page. 

I have also linked my siggy piggy site, and have quite a few things to add to that section as well.  I do plan on using this blog for quite a few different things, personal blogging, workout blogging, and pixel stuff.  Lots of things are planned!

Life as I knew with my last database is gone, and there isn’t much to blog about, but I will try to blog more often!

A bit like home now, isn’t it?  I have spent much of today putting up old content.  As you can see, it is still pretty bare around here, but I promise, I will do my best to be active once again around here.  Real life can be such a pain sometimes.  Between simply being preoccupied to taking care of four rugrats, and a husband, I seem to lose track of time.

I joined the qbee today, and I have put up my starter quilt.  I am looking forward to becoming a member and reconnecting with some old friends I had from the club way back when.  I also look forward to making my own beautiful quilt! Look for trades when I get approved.

For owners of websites, please note, that I am doing the best I can in recovering files, membership badges and what not.  I don’t know if I can recover the database now that a new one has been created, but I am trying.  Otherwise, please resend me my membership badges, so I can get the page up.

I am so bummed that I had to do this but of course, I gives me reason to reconnect to all my old friends and rediscover a passion I had.

That’s all for tonight, thanks for sticking by me through the rebuilding process.

I know its been quite a long time since I’ve done anything with my site.  *pats site* Anyways, on August 1, 2009, I came to my site only to discover that some hackers took control.  Anyways, as you can see, I had to wipe the database, and lost all of my content.  I am hoping that my amazing webhost has trouble-free backups that I can recover my content from.  I had quite a bit of stuff here.  I am deeply saddened that some punks would mess with my site in this manner.  I don’t know what I can recover, if anything, but I hope I can salvage what I had.  If not, please bear with me as a try to piece together my little home on the net.

Hackers….stay away.  Far… far away.